Hey Yall

Hey Yall

Okay so I’ve got all my old posts moved over now.  Whew! I feel like I’m grown again.  Big props to Broom for helping me do this. I am mega excited over getting started at this new site.  Now we can comment and exchange notes with ease.  It’s great because people should help each other.  There’s nothing to gain from hording all the good stuff for yourself. 

If you’re new to the Matrimony&Mayhem blog then, Akwabaa!  That means welcome. I apologize for the older posts that reference pictures.  I’ll be adding some new ones here soon.  All others are at my old windows live site.  View them while you can because I don’t know how long I’ll let it stand.  I need all search engines pointing here.  Pretty sure folks need to be able to find the site in order to receive the message.  So…gotta go, gotta go.

On a different note, this selfishness thing seems to be coming with ease.  Here I am blogging after a heck of a time with my kids.  It’s always like that when I’m on my own for the night.  E, had school.  I felt I had earned a break, so I left the dishes in the sink and came straight into my lab.  Put on my wizard coat (ie. slanket) and let the words flow.   ‘Course, I feel sort-a bad because my poor tired husband is home now and doing the dishes (which I planned to wash after the business at hand).  Since I always do the right thing first, well wait… that’s a lie.  If it’s laundry to be folded, I certainly skip it until the girls are fresh out of panties.  I’ve even been known to call downstairs for Eric to bring up a couple from the clean, yet unfolded basket, before I finish bathtime.  There are 6 clean loads in the basement right now, and where am I?  Ok, maybe that just makes me slack.  My point is, if he has energy to do the kitchen, great.  I sure don’t, but I would have gotten to it by tomorrow morning, easy.

No, I’m not advocating being a complete slacker.  And yes, I do have an automatic dishwasher. There are just so many of the kids’ plastic things that produce a film and possibly toxins, we’ve found handwashing to be better.  Indeed, I’ve escaped to write but I have not escaped my guilty thoughts. Give me some time. Filthy house or no, I must continue.

A schedule seems like the only plausible answer here, although I could only partially keep to it.  I certainly wouldn’t turn down any tips on taking care of self while managing the family. Sometimes I do well at it, but if I don’t get to write I am very frustrated.   The great challenge is working it around three little ones who want , need, no — outright DEMAND attention.

To become a better writer you should read more; which I struggle to do.  I had to force myself to read until after I graduated college.  Now I love it, but don’t do a good job of making time for it.  That aside, you absolutely must keep writing.  That’s why I started blogging.  But first I enrolled in an online class.  I have one  last assignment to complete before I’m done.  I learned tons from the class and this year I’m taking a writing workshop with Highlights.  I’ve  already had two pieces rejected by them; one with a sweet note to “keep writing.” So I feel like they know me  personally now and wouldn’t mind if I show up on their doorstep begging, read paying, to be taught.  I’m not at all afraid to ask for help.  So how many of us out there want to write?  Paint? Knit? Take pictures?  What’s your true passion?

About Onjeinika

An industrial engineer by education and a writer at heart. Mother to 3 children who have been known to cause mayhem. Wife of the man who tricked me into having the 3 said children. Servant of the Most High. I enjoy blogging, reading and dancing. Every day I strive to live life to its fullest. Reflecting God wherever I go.

7 Responses »

  1. Well you know me….photography all the way. My photo shoot this weekend inspired me to get back into it because I love it so. It is my gift and my passion, so I have to expand on it and share with the world.

  2. I’m checking out the site finally! Man! the blog abstinence thing sure has been rough! Look at all this glorious change I’ve been missing!! You know, by not blogging, I’m also not reading so that’s two passions flushed down the toilet! Well, I had to stay up till 2:09 am to do a little read-up on my old posts – and yours, but what the hay! It’s refreshing! And dogit! forget the Highlights people! I love reading you! Writing is a communication with an audience. Connection is all that matters, no matter the style of writing or even the pedigree. I’m looking forward to your books! You are an excellent writer!…Oh! and the laundry is never done! It’s becoming almost evil! How I wish I weren’t so neurotic about folding and putting things away! Those damned baskets (all 7 of them!) are driving me nuts sitting there overflowing and begging to be placed into some safe home somewhere away from children who continually treat them like a water feature, splashing clothes all over the floor!

  3. For me it is writing, and everyone who has read a lot of my writings tell me that is what I should be doing. It is something that I can do effortlessly for hours on end. I absolutely love doing it and have been exploring the professional side of it. Since I have those college loans and also an interest in IT, I figure I will just have to blend the two together. If I eliminate the money side of things [as recommended in Success Is Not An Accident by Tommy Newberry], then I’d pursue writing primarily. Newberry mentions that when you’re passionate about something and if winging it, you still do well, then you pursue it. Money can not be a factor. My husband and I have talked about this many times. He is my proofreader, critic, biggest fan, and reality check. And each time, he tells me that I should be pursuing this seriously. I’m not afraid, but a person who has so many ideas about so many things I like to do. As a believer that I can do all things with God, then I don’t want to let any of my talents go to waste. This will be a challenge for me. In the meantime, I’m educating myself via other writers by reading a lot of books, blogs, and definitely via your writing process Onjeinika. When I first heard about PollyandMeek, I had already made plans to get to know you. You seem to be putting it all together and pursuing what you dream. I admire that about you. So, I’m a big fan and supporter. I’ll be glad to share some writing tips I’ve learned [from college professors and high school english teachers] with you. There is still a lot that I’m having to learn e.g. writing more concisely and punctuation. I find established writers are not judged by some writing habits that would be considered incorrect grammatically, ect. It becomes about their writing style and if people enjoy it. The best tips I can give have been given to you already. Reading and writing is the key to it. I read a lot of different genres of books and I just keep writing. Write even if it does not make sense to you initially, but you are just driven to write at that moment. Then, I continuously re-read what I write; imagining that I’m a critic or that it’s not my work. I try to put myself in the place of my audience while keeping in mind the type of audience I’m to whom i’m trying to appeal. Anyhoo, we will have to find time to meetup this week. I’m sure we can bounce some ideas off of each other. What are you doing tomorrow?

  4. Onjeinika, check out the website I’ve included just to give you a jist of some of the things I’ve written. This was for my database class journal project; so it will be on the technical side. I also blog in other spaces which I’m presently setting up a blog to showcase all my writing styles. Anyhoo, let me know what you think. I’ve already seen some editing work that needs to be done e.g. the concise stuff. We’ll talk soon.

  5. Thanks so much for your kind comments on my writing skill. I’ve accepted the fact that rejection is part of the freelance game, so I don’t want to forget Highlights or any other magazines that buy articles! LOL! And while I blog for free, writing children’s books and kids’ nonfiction, I do for pay.

  6. Yes. I’m definitely interested and have been researching the various ways to do it. My first goal is to get a schedule into place so that I can write undisturbed. Now, I have to be honest and say that there are times when I can write even if my kids are tying my legs with rope. LOL! I guess that lets you know how much I love writing. How did you get into the writing children’s books and kids’ nonfiction for pay?

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